The Ways We Lie

We lie, we all do, exaggerate, minimize, partly I think it is because we engage in certain life choices that we think are unacceptable to our family, friends or in other’s views. I think this defines who we are and our goals as individuals, this can be destructive in my opinion and I think it is something we should really pay attention to how we speak even if we have champagne dreams on beer pocket books. At any extent we compromise our integrity in my belief when we engage in any form of lying because it is the Law of attraction that you draw to your environment how you interact with people is what you draw into your life.

I think lying boils down to the self and our self esteem we try to look good both to ourselves and others, when we are threatened our lies are at higher levels. I don’t feel all lies are harmful and at times it protects our privacy. I look at boasting can be less serious than bald-faced lies when you leave out the truth or put in something false is harmful and corrode trust and intimacy.

We are so engrossed in how others perceive us that we end up often unable to separate truth from fiction in our minds and it becomes almost reflexively as though it is part of our normal social discourse. I think we try to hard to impress other people that we are inconsistent with the way we are viewed by others.

I think nearly anyone may tell you lying is wrong, but when it comes to avoiding trouble or saving face or sparing another’s feelings, self-preservation many of us find ourselves lying anyway. I don’t believe that most lies are meant to be hurtful but meant to help or benefit the person fibbing and so often this turns into an instinctual frequent error that we give ourselves permission to do and be irresponsible with deception.

I think many times lying eventually hinders people from having close connections and relationships with people. I do not think that you can tell lies habitually which could potentially to diminishing a person’s ability to deal with bigger problems in life and still maintain being an honest person. I believe people become resentful and burdened when continually lied to.

I think when we are tempted to lie or be less than truthful we need to ask ourselves to dig deep and accept responsibility for our actions and not give away our power and control by lying to avoid our mistakes or short comings or afraid of what people may think of you.

The temptation is unbearable at times but resorting to dishonesty teaches us and others we are unworthy and weak. Ask yourself will you be comfortable and happy or upset with the lie or are you defining yourself according to another person. I agree with Ericsson that we tell lies when we are afraid and I think people lie more often than they realize partly because white lies are socially acceptable and bald-faced lies are not.

I love the saying, “It’s not a lie if you believe it.” Unknown~
I think we need to consider these examples: we lie to impress, we lie to be polite, to avoid punishment, to flatter and most are not intended to harm anyone and at times the truth hurts…I do believe that honesty is an overrated virtue and there are tricky situations and sometimes things are not black and white but I think everyone needs to give their selves a chance to be 100% honest at any cost and to any extent. Lies are falsities, but is it possible to always tell the truth well I do think that honesty is what makes love possible and I do think to be an honest person we should always try to be true, humble and courageous.

We also must know that to avoid tension in families at times it may be a problem to tell all truth. Remember before we judge or critize others to any extent we must think before we answer or speak untruth.

Honesty is about learning how to express openly to another person and setting aside your defenses. I encourage each person to be aware and recognize dishonesty in yourself and others when you see it and don’t be afraid to call it as it is dishonesty.